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The stories we tell ourselves and others give form and meaning to our lives. Psychologists know that how we make sense of what happens to us determines our well-being and emotional fortitude.
Yet when our fertile years are packed with disappointment, indecision, and strife, it’s hard to make sense of what’s happening. Our life stories aren’t following their proscribed paths. We’re different than people who are having kids. And often very, very alone.
The idea makes me tremble with nerves but it also makes me smile as I think of us coming together again to unite our voices. Behind the scenes people have already been approaching me with their ideas and offers of support and that makes me go all mushy with emotion whilst at the same time I want to jump up and down and scream about how excited I am.
So let me kick this off by sharing the details of the week’s daily topics.
Yesterday when I was in the middle of organising a newsletter for World Childless Week it suddenly clicked that it was Father’s Day for many countries this coming weekend. I realised the importance of acknowledging this day and the range of emotions it can raise for any man who is childless not by choice. Having focused on the history of Mother’s Day earlier this year I decided to follow the same pattern and look into the history of Father’s Day.
On Saturday I cautiously tiptoed, in my comfy shoes, into The Barbican for There’s More to Life Than Children. I spotted and overheard two ladies who appeared to be going to the same event and decided to follow them as I had no idea where I was going.
If you’d said to me a few years ago that I would be looking forward and feeling excited about attending a day about being childless I’d have given you a really weird look. I’d have thought you were insane and would have probably told you so.
But it’s now bizarrely true !!
Chonie Prysilia recently contacted me to share her trailer for KOSONG; an animated documentary film about married women in Java, who are childless.
In Java (Indonesia) women are automatically blamed if children are not forthcoming in a marriage. They are not allowed the freedom to speak out, and are judged regardless of the situation.
Where do I start? It is a day that can lead to a complexity of triggers. In reality it is not one day but several weeks of constant reminders. Commercialism has taken over and is out of control.
Here we are on the 1st December, the official countdown to Christmas begins as advent calendars have their first day eagerly opened by kids across the world.
Policy makers and business people might want to check out the new social movement on the block as a demographic group of interest. The growing numbers of childless adults in Australia, the UK, the US and around the globe are making themselves heard.
For every living organism, life is a competition; a battle to exist.
John Alex has claimed he can help me fix my childlessness.
I think it was 2010. I think it was spring. I think I was wearing double-denim. I know I was sitting on my friend’s sofa trying to buy sperm.
On the 2nd November, the Daily Telegraph ran a report by Antony Douglas of the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (Cafcass) that claims that ‘The ever-improving success of IVF has led to fewer children being adopted.’
It’s not what I expected.
It’s not what I planned.
It’s not what I hoped for.
But it’s OK all of the time and sometimes it’s really good.
As I lay in bed earlier this week I had a revelation that shocked me. On the morning of the same day I had contacted More To Life as I wanted to know if they would be interested in sharing a blog from me for Tuesday 30th October #LifeWithoutChildren which was part of Fertility Week.
I’ve been dragging my feet for the last few weeks. Since World Childless Week ended I have felt numb, excited, relieved, emotional, overwhelmed, thankful and neutral.
We are supporting you during the year and we’ve created 365, a space on our site for work created after World Childless Week 2018. Here are 10 things you can do to support us until we roar extra loudly on 16th September 2019!
Jody Day from Gateway Women is a figurehead when it comes to giving us a voice. She is also a World Childless Week Champion and recorded an exclusive webinar which was introduced by Stephanie Phillips and included contributions from Champions Berenice Smith and Cristina Archetti.
I’ve just had an image of Bugs Bunny fly into my head and I can hear him saying....
We are sneaking past Steph whilst she’s talking to you…!
It’s our pleasure and honour to share your World Childless Week #IAMME photos!
Listen to Steph’s interview with Newstalk’s Lunchtime Live…
Being childless not by choice is the taboo subject of an unrecognised minority.
If you'd like to take part in World Childless Week this year, but you're not sure how then here's 10 things that you might want to do.
"It's important to dispell the myths like 'just adopt' and to have honest conversations about infertility.”
One of the many hidden difficulties of involuntary childlessness can be social isolation.
I always expected to be a dad. I wanted to be a dad.
I have always believed that we should all give something back. Once we had come to terms with our childlessness, we realised that we as a couple had made it through the other side, knowing many don't.
I am trying to live with an open heart and mind whilst being childless not by choice and moving forward to live the life I have to the fullest.
"What we admire the most about Stephanie Phillips is that she is giving a voice to those whom have not: World Childless Week supports the childless community to find, courage, strength and determination to make a difference."