Why do so many of us find companionship and solace with our pets? Do you gather strength from their unconditional love or find comfort in being able to nurture and care for an animal? Do you see yourself as a fur-mum or hate the phrase? How do you feel when someone else tries to discredit the value of your pet or imply that somehow we don’t understand the difference between a child and an animal?
What do your furry, feathered and scaly friends mean to you?
Today we’ll discuss the role pets play in healing the grief of childlessness (or not), and also how to cope with the death of a furbaby/featherbaby or scalybaby on top of the grief of childlessness.
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A discussion on rescue pets and the rescuing effect they have had on us in our grief. They are a living being that relies on us, that we are able to fulfil some of our nurturing needs on, make us laugh and make the world a better place to be. They are something to come home to when you live your own, something that is happy to see you.
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From World Childless Week 2022
We know how important pets can be, yet many people without children also feel shame or judgment by others for the significance that animals can play in their lives. In this webinar we want to bust some of the negative stereotypes and shine a light on how and why our pets contribute to our wellbeing and create richness in our lives. These relationships can be precious, and in our care they are often the happiest pets in the world!
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When my husband and I started our fertility journey to try and become parents, we didn’t realize the struggles we would face. As with most couples, we felt it would be a straightforward journey and we would have a bouncing baby soon enough.
Poppy was thirteen in July this year. She is the one dog I call my baby. I’m not her mum (obviously) but she’s my baby.
When I first met Boba at his rescue home, I was immediately taken with his personality. A ginger tabby boy, his outgoing nature was apparent from the first.
The worse night of my life had happened. I was alone in the middle of the night holding my mum as she died in my arms. That was it, I was on my own now.
When I found myself childless after fertility treatments ended, I felt a huge void. I had so much love to give and didn't know where to focus it if I couldn't be a biological mother.
I didn’t think I could look after an animal, I could barely look after myself.
I am a nearly 50-year-old childless and infertile woman. I have always had a cat. Since I was two years old, we always had a cat in the house.
I will never forget the phone call that came with the results of my IVF procedure! Mostly, how I couldn’t breathe when they said that after 8 weeks, I was no longer pregnant.
I love you Boris
I love how soft and velvety your ears are
I love how you are short-but-long
So first up let’s introduce the reprobates. I have two dogs - Beagles - a 7 year old girl, Holly who we’ve had from a puppy and a 10 year old rescue, Douglas. I’m currently working on adding a third but my husband might read this so shhh…
I wasn’t going to submit for ‘The importance of pets’, as I usually focus on ‘Moving forwards’, but this year I’ve decided to quickly do both.
Thank you to the beloved pets that have been with me through my childless not by choice journey.
I’m childless not by choice, I have premature ovarian syndrome and was diagnosed at 26.
I never wanted animals. I used to say, “if I have to clean up after something, pay and raise it - it better become a productive member of society.”
On paper, I rescued her, but really, I think she rescued me. In 2018, sprawled on my bed in the Ugandan village of Ruhanga - papers strewn around me - I wrote the line …
You know when you read something pertinent but badly timed & just think ‘oh shit’. That was how I felt shortly after Millie Mojo came into our lives.
People have called me a crazy cat lady for as long as I can remember. People make jokes about my cats. But they are my world.
The term “fur parent” is a fairly recent term. It’s a term that to some fills them with a love and warmth.
We’ve always been a feline family. My dad loved cats and they loved him in a way that made me envious.
Dear friend who rolls your eyes when I talk about my pets or as I prefer to call them –my furbabies.
My life is childless by circumstance but far from fruitless.
As I was coming to terms with not being a mother, I was getting onboard and even excited about the freedom and choices ahead of me but I still had that nagging anxiety of the love I was going to miss out on.
Animals have been a part of my life from my earliest days. Since my family was low on nurturing, I turned to animals and books for the companionship I needed.
For around 35 of my 45 years, I have lived in homes with cats.
I never thought that I would have a doggie. I used to be terrified of dogs, avoided them anywhere. I had no pets before I had Pippa, a fox red labrador.
Lanta, I’ll never forget that day on the Thai beach in Koh Lanta when I first saw your photo, and the idea of getting a dog was brought up again.
Lola, you came into our lives at just the right time, bringing with you a whirlwind of personality and a heart full of love.
Rocco, you came into our lives when I least expected it and when I didn’t think I had the capacity for more love.
Brody, our 90-pound chocolate lab, was a cool gentleman with a personality all his own.
I proudly tell everyone that am a #LabraMummy to my two yellow Labradors, Chewbacca (Chewie) and Lucy.
I’m told there are significant words in relationships and those which remain in my mind are ‘I don’t see why not’.
He was my longest male relationship, we shared a bed, we cuddled on the sofa, he’d hear the car come home and greet me at the door, he was especially handsome..
Luna is my first dog.
First she was funny, happy, social with other dogs and friendly with humans.
I had a childless neighbour in her early seventies who had two dogs. At the time, I also had two dogs, Max and Mia. One day, she said to me, “We have a lot of love to give. Dogs are where that love can go.”