Please note the books listed on this page are not personal recommendations, but a selection of available literature on the subject of childlessness.
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Have you heard about the Inclusive Libraries Project?
It’s aim is to encourage libraries to help childless and childfree people find books that reflect their lives and experiences, and are 'safer' to read for people in deep grief. This can be achieved in two ways:
Stock books by, for, and about childless and childfree people, and embrace us as part of their communities.
Create a disply stand for World Childless Week, using the books suggested in point 1.
If you’d like to know more and see what you can do to help, take a look at the Inclusive Libraries Project
Childlessness In The Age Of Communication: Deconstructing Silence - Cristina Archetti
Cristina Archetti started researching childlessness after being diagnosed with "unexplained infertility". She soon discovered that, although involuntary childlessness affects an increasing number of women and men across the world, this topic is shrouded taboo and shame. This book is both a first-person reflection about the existential questions posed by involuntary childlessness and a readable account of the way the silence surrounding this topic is socially and politically constructed. Download a free electronic copy here ISBN-13: 978-1032478067
Living The Life Unexpected - Jody Day
Jody Day addresses the experience of involuntary childlessness and provides a powerful, practical guide to help those negotiating a future without children come to terms with their grief. This friendly, practical, humorous and honest guide from one of the world’s most respected names in childless support offers compassion and understanding and shows how it’s possible to move towards a creative, happy, meaningful and fulfilling future – even if it’s not the one you had planned. ISBN-13: 978-1529036138
HOW IS A MAN SUPPOSED TO BE A MAN? Male Childlessness – a Life Course Disrupted - Robin Hadley
The global trend of declining fertility rates and an increasingly ageing population has serious implications for individuals and institutions alike. Childless men are mostly excluded from ageing, social science and reproduction scholarship and almost completely absent from most national statistics. This unique book examines the lived experiences of a hidden and disenfranchised population: men who wanted to be fathers. It explores the complex intersections that influence childlessness over the life course. ISBN-13: 978-1805391296
Save Me from the Waves - Jessica Hepburn
Save me from the Waves is an inspirational story of physical and mental endurance which starts on the streets of London and culminates in a life-threatening event on top of the world. It explores the redemptive power of music and mountains. And encourages evervone to live big and bravely when life doesn’t go to plan. Moving, funny and unique this book will inspire every reader to believe an adventure will always change your life for the better. ISBN-13: 978-0711291300
21 Miles - Jessica Hepburn
When Jessica’s life didn’t go to plan, she ate and she swam. This is the story of how Jessica met and ate with 21 inspirational women and then swam 21 miles in search of the answer to the question: ‘Does motherhood make you happy?’ ISBN-13: 978-1783526093
The Pursuit of Motherhood - Jessica Hepburn
If you’ve ever felt a crumpling in your chest when another friend tells you they’re pregnant… If you’ve ever wondered why everyone else seems to find it so easy… If you’ve ever experienced the pursuit of motherhood… This book is for you. ISBN-13: 978-1783061877
Dreaming Of A Life Unlived - Yvonne John
Dreaming of a Life Unlived was conceived with love, compassion and understanding and birthed to give a voice to the experience of women who are childless not by choice/ childless by circumstance. This book helped us to no longer deny our stories but to own our stories and to write a brand-new ending (thanks Brene) and I pray that Dreaming of a Life Unlived helps you to find your voice, to own your story and to write your own brave new ending. ISBN-13: 978-1526201218
Zoya’s Gift - Gail McCormick
“an intimate memoir of love and grief that shows how, with willingness and courage, there are many ways to create a family of the heart when a family of the womb is not to be.”
--Jody Day, founder of Gateway Women and author of Living the Life Unexpected
“Gail McCormick’s memoir reminds any woman who has yearned for children…there are many ways to ‘mother.’ When one dream ends, an extraordinary life may begin.”
--Melanie Notkin, author of Otherhood: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness
FICTION
Dead Late - Anise Eden - Coming October 17: DEAD LATE, a romantic thriller in which our heroine with infertility finds her "happily-ever-after!" A sinister international crime syndicate forces an Irish doctor to choose which life he’ll save: his patient’s, or that of the woman he loves. While he struggles to decide which vow to break, the patient is prepped... and the clock is ticking.
The Odd Wolf - Laura Graham - A childless, disabled, heroine in a shifter romantasy. Alice becomes a werewolf and develops a target on her back. Shes used to living in a society that wasnt built for her; but not one where many want her dead. Slow burn forbidden romance, found family, flawed characters, healing from trauma.
The Hollow Sea - Annie Kirby - After years of trying to become a mother, Scottie makes a snap decision to run away from her marriage and more fertility treatment, travelling to a remote, storm lashed archipelago to try and discover her forgotten past. Once there, she’s drawn to the legend of Thordis, reviled as a witch, murderess and child-stealer ISBN-13: 978-1405949903
NON-FICTION
Beyond Childlessness - Rachel Black & Louise Scull - Even now, many women find it very difficult to discuss their childlessness with family and friends. This book offers support, shared experience and practical strategies to all those for whom childlessness is not a positive choice but a circumstance they have to learn to live with. ISBN-13: 978-1405077613
Dear You - Tessa Broad - Most infertility memoirs end with a miracle baby; this one doesn’t. Instead, it’s a warm, honest and quirky account of Tessa’s own miracle; how she found a way to live a happy and passionate life without children. ISBN-13: 978-1910453407
Sweet Grapes - Jean W. Carter & Michael Carter - Sweet Grapes examines the psychological aspects of infertility and offers advice on redefining one's life and recognizing the potential for growth while living childfree. ISBN-13: 978-0944934234
Childless By Marriage - Sue Fagalde Lick (author and blogger) - First you marry a man who does not want children. He cheats and you divorce him. Then you marry the love of your life and find out he does not want to have children with you either. This is the story of how a woman becomes childless by marriage and how it affects every aspect of her life. ISBN-13: 978-1733685238
Love or children: When You Can’t Have Both - Sue Fagalde Lick (author and blogger) - It's like this giant secret that is right in front of everyone. One in five women reach menopause without having children. For more than half of them, it was not by choice. At least not their own. They don't have children because their partners were unable or unwilling to have children with them. ISBN-13: 978-1733685214
Childless Voices - Lorna Gibb - From the playgrounds of Glasgow to the villages of Bangladesh; from religious rites to ancient superstitions; from the world's richest people to its powerless and enslaved, Lorna Gibb's masterful Childless Voices paints a global portrait of people without children. ISBN-13: 978-1783782642
This Particular Happiness: A Childless Love Story - Jackie Shannon Hollis - As a farm girl raised in eastern Oregon, Jackie Shannon Hollis expected to become a mother someday. But, after several failed relationships, she meets Bill, a man who doesn’t want children. In direct and intimate language, this debut memoir asks us to consider what we keep and what we abandon to make space for love. ISBN-13: 978-1942436393
The Baby Dream: Learning to Live with Infertility and Loss - Narelle Hudson - is Narelle Hudson's heartfelt account of her experiences with infertility and IVF. Join Narelle on this inspirational journey as she travels courageously through pain, grief and joy, and experiences situations that will change her forever. Be uplifted by her messages of hope as she discovers what else is possible. ISBN-13: 978-0645150124
Downriver Nomad - Rob Hutchings - Rob shares his story of adventures and adversities not only in the water, on the race course and off the beaten track, but also his struggles with an alcoholic father and his own unsuccessful path to fatherhood. His is a story of humour, heartbreak and challenges that will inspire the absolute beginner in adventure sports to the seasoned endurance athlete. ISBN-13: 978-0473588342
Do You Have Kids? Life When The Answer Is No - Kate Kaufmann - Imagine having your own team of honest childless aunties, wise childfree godmothers, and savvy experts describe life's options and challenges when you don't have kids. Do You Have Kids? Life When the Answer is No weaves together perspectives of non-moms aged twenty-four to ninety-one, a growing body of research, and the author's own story into a practical guide to what life without kids can entail. ISBN-13: 978-1631525810
The Facts Of Life - Paula Knight - In 1970s Northeast England, best friends Polly and April are swapping their hazy knowledge of the facts of life. They both expect to have families one day - it's the normal script to follow, isn't it? But when Polly looks back, many years later, she has to confront what family means in a society where 'family' usually means 'children'. ISBN-13: 978-1908434524
The Secret Parent - Zelna Lauwrens - Kids Life Coach, Zelna, sheds light on the painful issue of what it means to have a fundamental choice taken away. The choice of being a biological parent. In this eye opening snapshot of her views on life, parenting and childhood she whispers out loud the secrets which previously held her back from finding and living her purpose fully. ISBN-13: 978-1916463004
Living With Amazing Grace - Melanie Mackie - This is a much needed inspirational story that gives a voice to address the silence, taboo and stigma that continues to surround women following miscarriage and baby loss. ISBN-13: 978-1789725865
Silent Sorority - Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos (author and blogger) - Silent Sorority is an award-winning book. It reveals with candor, humor and poignancy the intense and at times absurd experience of adjusting to a life as a "non-mom" when nature and science don't cooperate in the family building department. ISBN-13: 978-1439231562
Life Without Baby: Surviving and Thriving When Motherhood Doesn’t Happen - Lisa Manterfield - Based on her small-group workshops and popular ebook series, this book offers a combination of hard-won lessons, gentle queries, and real-world suggestions. Manterfield is a comforting and supportive companion who will guide you gently down your own path to making peace with being childfree-not-by-choice and thriving in a new happily ever after. ISBN-13: 978-0983012535
I Always Wanted To Be A Dad: Men Without Children - Robert Nurden - In this ground-breaking and no-holds-barred exploration, Robert goes on a journey through his own hurt and regret, unravelling the complexities of life as a childless-not-by-choice man. He ultimately uncovers the hope that is discovered in acceptance, and the realisation that a rich and fulfilling life can still lie in wait. A 'brave, ground-breaking and brutally honest' read. ISBN-13: 978-1838447731
WITHOUT CHILDREN - Peggy O’Donnell Heffington - In WITHOUT CHILDREN, a historian of gender explores the complicated relationship between womanhood and motherhood. Utilizing deep research and her experience as a woman without children, Heffington shows that many of the reasons women are not having children today are ones they share with women in the past. Understanding this history is key to building a better world for all. ISBN-13: 978-1541675575
Surviving Childlessness - Steph Penny (author and blogger) - Steph explores how people may be excluded from church and society because of childlessness. With thoughtful suggestions and practical tips for family, friends and churches, as well as some tongue-in-cheek recommendations for what not to say, this hopeful book encourages childless people to live for God—even in the midst of suffering and the grief of childlessness. ISBN-13: 978-0645062700
Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness - Lesley Pyne (author and blogger) - This book is for you if you wanted to be a mother and for some reason it didn’t happen. You’re feeling devastated, sad, angry, disappointed, (etc, etc). And mostly…you’re hiding your true self from the world. What if you could spend time with other women who have been where you are now, and are now leading a fulfilling life? ISBN-13: 978-1838531522
A Year Of Medical Thinking - SK Reid - "I quickly swapped my ‘Ms Innocent, the world is tough but basically okay’ hat for the one of ‘Breast Cancer Patient’, madly trying to process everything that the doctor was saying.” An inauspicious encounter in a doctor’s surgery during a routine follow-up for IVF initiates a descent into a labyrinth of questioning and uncertainty. ISBN-13: 978-1922190963
I’m Not Your Mother - Helen Rice - My poetry book about being childless (not by choice) yet also being a stepmother and auntie in my forties is called 'I'm Not Your Mother' and is available to order from Written Off Publishing. "Helen Rice's poems are important: they're funny, honest and human." - Helen Mort, Poet and Novelist ISBN-13: 978-1915320407
Forever One Pink Line - Sonja Roos - A story of a couple moving overseas for a better future for future children but finding out that both of them are infertile. It is an honest, raw recount of a three year journey, with 6 IVF cycles, and a miscarriage. If you had/are having a similar experience and just want someone to relate to, this book is for you. ISBN-13: 978-1923163423
Sunset Gratitude - Emily Silva - 365 Hopeful Meditations for Peaceful and Reflective Evenings All Year Long is a book of daily meditations that was born from the journey of infertility and childlessness. Life is hard and beautiful. Hope is alive through the pain if we look for it. This book helps readers find glimpses of hope no matter what they’re going through. ISBN-13: 978-1577154280
Endless Reproduction - Melanie Stidolph - Endless Reproduction is my first photography book. It metaphorically charts my journey trying to get pregnant; from relying on nature, living by the calendar, assisted by drugs and interventions and increasingly random trying before eventually stopping. It creates connections with the processes of photography and trying to get pregnant, through emphasising the repetition, failure and chance involved in both.
Motherhood Missed - Lois Tonkin - Many women expect to become mothers but are childless through social rather than biological reasons - perhaps they haven't met the right person or they prioritised career or education earlier in life. Featuring international interviews by grief counsellor and researcher Lois Tonkin, this collection of first-person stories provides insight into the under-discussed situation of being childless by circumstance. ISBN-13: 978-1785923371
Hope Shouts Louder - Rebecca Townley and Rosie Godfrey - In their book Hope Shouts Louder Rebecca Townley and Rosie Godfrey share personal, 'life-unexpected' stories in a relatable way. They encourage the reader to explore their own faith journey, particularly in the darkest of times. This is a devotional style, interactive book with questions, meditations and journalling spaces. Hope Shouts Louder inspires hope to all those struggling with life. ISBN-13: 978-0893674335
Resurrection Year - Sheridan Voysey - Expectation. Expectation. Expectation. Disappointment. After ten years of tear-soaked prayers and repeatedly dashed hopes, Sheridan Voysey and his wife come to a heart-breaking conclusion—their dream of having a child is over. Empty and confused from a decade of disappointment, they leave their jobs, pack their bags, and embark on a journey in search of restoration. ISBN-13: 978-0849964800
She I Dare Not Name - Donna Ward - She I Dare Not Name is a compelling collection of fiercely intelligent, deeply intimate, lyrical reflections on the life of a woman who stands on the threshold between two millennia. Both manifesto and confession, this moving memoir explores the meaning and purpose Donna Ward discovered in a life lived entirely without a partner and children. ISBN-13: 978-1760876296
The Mother of All Dilemmas: Dreams of Motherhood and the Internship That Changed Everything - Kathleen G Woods - Hurtling toward 40-and still single and longing for children of her own-Kathleen doesn't need to be reminded that time is running out for her to turn her dreams for a family into reality. So she starts to consider a Plan B: becoming a single parent. But can she do it all on her own? And does she really want to? ISBN-13: 978-0578346656
cancer, covid and me - Marisa Wray - Spring 2020. The world has just gone into COVID-19 lockdown. Marisa sits in the surgeon's consulting room and hears, "You have breast cancer. You need a mastectomy. It's not safe to operate because of Covid." This is her story. As Marisa contemplates her cancer diagnosis she also confronts her struggles with childlessness and depression. ISBN-13: 979-8442341393
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