The stories we tell ourselves and others give form and meaning to our lives. Psychologists know that how we make sense of what happens to us determines our well-being and emotional fortitude.
Yet when our fertile years are packed with disappointment, indecision, and strife, it’s hard to make sense of what’s happening. Our life stories aren’t following their proscribed paths. We’re different than people who are having kids. And often very, very alone.
The idea makes me tremble with nerves but it also makes me smile as I think of us coming together again to unite our voices. Behind the scenes people have already been approaching me with their ideas and offers of support and that makes me go all mushy with emotion whilst at the same time I want to jump up and down and scream about how excited I am.
So let me kick this off by sharing the details of the week’s daily topics.
Yesterday when I was in the middle of organising a newsletter for World Childless Week it suddenly clicked that it was Father’s Day for many countries this coming weekend. I realised the importance of acknowledging this day and the range of emotions it can raise for any man who is childless not by choice. Having focused on the history of Mother’s Day earlier this year I decided to follow the same pattern and look into the history of Father’s Day.
On Saturday I cautiously tiptoed, in my comfy shoes, into The Barbican for There’s More to Life Than Children. I spotted and overheard two ladies who appeared to be going to the same event and decided to follow them as I had no idea where I was going.
If you’d said to me a few years ago that I would be looking forward and feeling excited about attending a day about being childless I’d have given you a really weird look. I’d have thought you were insane and would have probably told you so.
But it’s now bizarrely true !!
Chonie Prysilia recently contacted me to share her trailer for KOSONG; an animated documentary film about married women in Java, who are childless.
In Java (Indonesia) women are automatically blamed if children are not forthcoming in a marriage. They are not allowed the freedom to speak out, and are judged regardless of the situation.
Where do I start? It is a day that can lead to a complexity of triggers. In reality it is not one day but several weeks of constant reminders. Commercialism has taken over and is out of control.
Here we are on the 1st December, the official countdown to Christmas begins as advent calendars have their first day eagerly opened by kids across the world.
Policy makers and business people might want to check out the new social movement on the block as a demographic group of interest. The growing numbers of childless adults in Australia, the UK, the US and around the globe are making themselves heard.
For every living organism, life is a competition; a battle to exist.