What big steps or subtle differences have you noticed over the last year? Have you gone to a child heavy event and enjoyed yourself, or been prepared and confident to leave when it became too much? Have you spoken openly about being childless, made a small comment on a social media post that inferred negatively towards the childless, or approached a manager in work about inclusivity? Have you rediscovered old interests or just started to just feel better when you wake each day enlightened that you can now make new dreams?
We still may sway sideways and backwards at times, but see those steps as part of your dance moving slowly and steadily forwards.
Sometimes, it is only by picking up our pens that we can become the authors of our own stories again. In this session, Eva will teach the basics of confessional writing. What is it? How can it help us to cope with being childless not by choice? Whether in personal essays, poetry or autobiographical fiction, you will leave with the tools you need to write yourself remedied.
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A panel discussion with Meriel, Karin and Catherine-Emmanuelle, who will talk about their own journey of healing and invite questions and comments from the audience. We would also like to talk about what helps and hinders in the counselling room.
We can talk about our friends, our colleagues, hairdressers, the workplace…
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Join us for a transformative webinar during World Childless Week, where we explore the unique role of the childless step-mother within modern family structures. Drawing from real-life experiences and expert insights and data that demonstrates the changing family structures in our society and unhelpful pressures of existing dynamics and the growing need for a re-thinking of how we raise and care for children in society.
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Taking a leap into the future as CNBC women: Without a well-defined and socially sanctioned path to follow, how do we move past what we don’t have and find the courage to take the plunge into an expansive and meaningful life? This webinar interviews women who have done just that and who share their experience, strength and hope as CNBC women.
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Life or rather childlessness threw us a curveball and we ended up walking into a fog of confusion, full of questions. As we start to find the answers or learn to accept there is no clear answer, the fog starts to clear. We then realise we are not the person we thought we would be, not the person who had dreams of being a parent. We may wonder “who am I now?”
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You didn't choose to be here; it wasn't your choice. You were brought to this place by circumstance.
Over the past year, I've noticed some significant steps and subtle differences in how I handle my childlessness. It's been a journey marked by growth, pain, and a continuous effort to find peace with my childlessness.
Fate is not scripted in the stars!
Cruel and painful things happen it’s as simple as that!
Earlier this year I lost my lovely dad and 18 months ago I lost my amazing mum. I have never felt so alone in the world.
Lotuses arise from a dark place into their beautiful form. They grow in the mud and swampy areas; and out of the mud, comes beauty.
The devastating loss of motherhood hit me hard in my early forties when, after three miscarriages, my husband, Michael, and I stopped fertility treatments and decided against adoption.
Early morning. I’m in the hotel hot tub, alone.
The crows hack, the blackbirds sing back,
Louder, sweeter, it soars above the water’s roar.
Part of me assumed I would one day get married and have children but there was another part of me – even from a very young age – that honestly didn’t think this would happen.
I'm childless by relationship. I met my partner at the age of 38, we both agreed to not have children.
In the beginning I knew me - I had control.
I could be who I wanted and do what I wanted.
I was still a child of eight years old when my mother took me with her to her friend's baby shower.
“Be a buffalo! Cows run away from the storm while the buffalo charges toward it—and gets through it quicker.”
“Shall we make a 1000 pieces jigsaw?” said Robin, already enthusiastically holding up the colorful box in his hands.
My name is Ruth, and this is my journey. From a young age, I always imagined that children would be a part of my life.
Being single and without children at nearly 50 was decidedly NOT part of the careful path I had laid out for my life when finishing college.
We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. In 2014 my husband and I made a life changing decision and moved from the UK to Sydney leaving family, friends and all of our comforts behind.
No sugar-plums dancing, no Dad in his cap,
No Momma in kerchief, no reindeer feet taps.
When we first lost you
Your mum couldn’t cope she hid herself away in a dark place
I never thought I would reach 60. When I was a child my mum read my hand and said my lifeline was short and I would die young.
Sometimes something that you live with day in and day out, alarmingly stares you in the face and kind of shakes your core.
It is the main earthly business of a human being to make his home, and the immediate surroundings of his home, as symbolic and significant to his own imagination as he can.
There are many little pockets of happiness in my life. I find joy in small things, and I intend to keep finding them.
One year after ending our fertility journey, I found myself standing in front of the Iguazu Falls. Their raw, overwhelming power felt similar to my childlessness grief.
The moment I understood that my life was always going to turn out this way, my healing could truly begin.
Life takes you by surprise. The year of 2018 pulled the rug under my feet to expose an unknown void or cavity
I recently went on holiday to New York, and amidst the pictures of skyscrapers, fire-escapes, Central Park and the food, I took this picture.
I am writing this letter 17 years later to get my feelings finally out.
I prioritize movement, colour, comfort, rest and writing.
I seek out warm, engaging people.
She had spent so long wandering around in the bottom of the abyss. A deep and so very dark abyss.
My childless story isn’t a tidy one with a clear beginning, middle, and end. It’s ever-changing, filled with revisions.
Catherine-Emmanuelle lived in her tower. Kate was caught behind her wall.
I started writing in the World Childless Week of 2020. Since then, I talk about the feelings that ebb and go as we come to terms with our involuntary childlessness.
Well, it’s been a big year. In my personal childless healing process and as part of my CNBC campaigning, and honestly I’m not sure where to start….
In her article about being single and childless, Wilkinson (2019) discusses two types of people who fall outside of the cultural norm of “reproductive futurism”, both of whom she describes as being “queer”, that is, out of place or out of synch with these norms.