Reconnection to who I was prior to realising I would be childless; and connecting to who I am now that I am childless, has become a big theme for me in the last 2-3 years.
Read moreRising from The Ashes. Five Years on – I’m Nobody’s Mum, and I’m Assuredly Okay with it!
‘Rising from the ashes’ is how Jennifer Aniston describes her current phase of life after IVF. This might sound dramatic to those who’ve never been in the infertility trenches, but that’s exactly how the ‘come back’ feels after ten, arduous years of back-to-back IVF fails.
Read moreNeurodivergent and Childless
Being late diagnosed as an autistic ADHD’er, I realise that my neurodivergent brain impacted my childless not by choice (CNBC) experience to a significant extent over the years.
Read moreIt’s called International Women’s Day, not International Mother’s Day!
March 8th is International Women’s Day worldwide and the 2024 focus is ‘Inspire Inclusion.’ Whilst this is an important theme, I can’t help but wonder whether there’ll be a notable increase in inclusion around the issues women without children face this year?
Read moreDoes it take 10 years to heal from childlessness?
At Storyhouse Childless last September there was a ripple of agreement amongst the audience when someone suggested it took 10 years to heal from childlessness.
I rippled too.
Read moreFinding True Love: A Guide to Romance... with Yourself!
Self-care
a day-by-day, moment-by-moment choice to prioritise our needs as much as we do those of others. It is about committing to carving out time (however difficult) to rest, play and nurture ourselves.
Read moreWhen January shows up, I drop some anchors.
How small daily rituals can provide stability during transition times.
This year marks a decade since I came to terms with the permanence of my childlessness and the ending of an important intimate relationship.
Read morePatriarchal Motherhood – How It Divides Women And Damages Friendships
Social exclusion and friendship wounds can be one of the really painful parts of childlessness.
Read moreCultivating the fallow field of Twixmas
The week between Christmas and New Year can curdle like an overcooked guest for those of us who are childless not by choice.
Read moreA single, childless, Christmas
A single, childless, Christmas. For me personally, it’s developed over the years from a season of sadness, to a season of self-care (ok….sadness is still mixed in, that never really goes away).
Read moreView through the lens of experience - navigating the festive season
The end of year festive season is filled with the buzz of advertising to families. Print, TV, online – most seem to depict children and multi-generational joy. So, what happens when one is faced with a life that does not include children, grandchildren, parents or grandparents?
Read moreEvery day is International Men’s Day – right?
It all happens in November when it comes to men. First, the whole month is ‘Movember.’ Second, every 19th November is International Men’s Day (IMD). Finally, on the 23rd November this year is the Men and Boys Coalition National Conference.
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