How does this comment make you feel? Does it feel ridiculous or make you angry? Do they not think we may have considered adoption or fostering and their words could be opening up a whole can of worms? Should we say yes please, pack them an overnight bag and I’ll be around with a van to collect the rest of their stuff tomorrow! Is it simply cruel because of the disregard it shows for our situation, and the implication that their children could fill the hole left in our hearts at never having our own.
Is it meant to be a joke, because I don’t hear anyone but the parent laughing?
People bring their children into zoom meetings, leave meetings to answer a child’s query, or dominate workplace conversations with child focussed talk.
This work life divide becoming unbalanced has the potential to not only amplify the triggers of loss and longing for CNBC colleagues, it also brings exclusion to the workday.
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Sheri is going to show you: - The real reason the insensitive remarks “trigger you”. The mindset shifts that will allow the emotions to dissipate. How to respond in a way that feels authentic and loving. How to actually get the other person to understand why you feel hurt.
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The work of processing so much sensory information in our complex and fast-paced world takes a lot of time and energy. Sensitive people often need to take more time than others to process information and feelings to discern what they want to do. This need can affect their choice of work and affect relationship decisions, including marriage and children.
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It’s really hard not to feel the knife that goes through my heart when someone makes a thoughtless comment that ignores the hurt of my childlessness.
I suspect many of us have been on the receiving end of this often throw away and flippant remark, or variations of it. We all have our own different journeys.
For twenty-eight years, I’ve been living this CNBC life. A life I never chose or wanted or desired.
Navigating friendships and relationships as a woman who is Childless not by Choice due to infertility, has been tricky at times to say the least!
There are several not so helpful jokes tossed at we childless not by choice. One being, “You don’t have kids?! You’re so lucky!” Unfortunately, this quip is often followed by “Do you want my kids?!”
“No Kids? Do You want mine?” Every childless person has probably heard these words at some stage in their lives.
“Here take my kids”. How often have we heard that from exasperated parents or people who are trying to be funny?
When we lived in the house we thought our child/ren would grow up in, we frequently ran into this same lady on walks. I’m pretty sure she had amnesia.
No kids! Do you want mine? To me, this is a thoughtless comment made by parents who are (temporarily) overwhelmed by their chosen duty to raise children.
This topic triggers all sorts of thoughts and emotions for me.
It’s such a throw away comment isn’t it; generally said with humour from the voice that delivered it, offered in a moment that the recipient was sharing a vulnerability..
I've stopped counting the number of times it has happened.