What is your childless story? Are there aspects you have hidden because that is supposedly “what men do”? Have you buried your emotions, to support your partner, or dismissed them as unimportant? We need to change the narrative and ensure every male voice is just as loud as every female.
Today you can express your thoughts on any aspect of your childless life: your story, a painful moment in time or something that has helped you move forwards.
In this webinar Kevin Davidson of Mindful Masculinity aims to raise awareness of how the Fatherhood Bonus impacts childless men and encourage them to question and challenge their employees for parity. Plus, inspire childless men to be more visible and present so that employers will be less likely to get away with reducing their significance when compared with fathers.
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From the moment I realized I was gay I knew having children wouldn't be obvious. And although there are many possibilities it is something very biological for me. I'm still curious what kind of person from Dieter and I would come from. But I'm at peace with the situation and sometimes, sometimes I just regret it too.
Shunem Care Family members: Whisper Maisiri, Sikhumbuzo Dube, Samuel Mwanza chat about their experiences in African childless marriages.
The following composition by Guy W Stoker was inspired by a poem written by Andy Harrod of (In)visible childlessness.
Growing up as an African man, I had the concept that life is made complete by having a family with children. So strong was this thought that I could not imagine a married life without any offspring.
In 1990, we married at 36. Ready to go, do what is expected of us, with fertility on both sides of the family well proven.
There is a picture that hangs above my father-in-law's fireplace.
He titled it "Men in the mountains" and in it…
Over the past year and a half, I’ve worked from home with and for people I’ve never met. Having
to wear masks in public up until recently means that I probably wouldn’t have recognized them if
I ran into them on the street.
Sikhumbuzo Dube is interviewed by Ursula Nora about legacy and his story of unfulfilled dreams.
It is not of flesh and blood.
It will not have my eyes,
her earlobes,
her hair, my lack of it.
My hands sliced through the pristine surging currents after making it through the most challenging part of my adventure: a hairpin bend with fast-flowing rapids, a steep and imposing rock wall to my right.