Of all the things that make me different, it is my involuntary childlessness that I have struggled with the most.
Read moreShe was not less! I am not less!
In contrast to the way I had never grieved my childlessness, I was able to fully grieve my cousin’s death, along with the rest of my family, as we cried and talked and remembered. There was sadness, shock and anger and a sense of huge injustice that she had died so young.
Read moreBeautiful Once Again
A few years ago a good friend invited me to join her in taking an art class based on the Japanese art of Kintsugi. This art form, supposedly over 400 years old, treats the breaks and repairs in a precious object as part of its history.
Read moreAre you your own hero?
After going through one unsuccessful IVF cycle, I saw a counsellor to come to terms with the grief of being childless. During this time, I became withdrawn, felt isolated as I did not have family living nearby.
Read moreA Confined woman With A Gypsy Soul
Worth has always been a complex topic for me.
Read moreChildless Empowerment
We should be heard. We should stop being the secret statistics of society that get overlooked or discarded like a used rag.
Read moreWhat I would have said to my younger self
Sat on the floor in a large gym, my bottom pressing onto a hard surface, wriggling to try and get comfortable. Over 200 14-15 year olds surround me, the sound of crinkling paper echoes around the space as we clutch onto small plain white paper bags.
Read moreThere is No Elevator Speech
I’ve never really liked sharing anything about my personal story - the part about not having kids, anyway. I never had a succinct answer I could give, no tidy three-sentence summary of my situation that made everything okay - made me sound okay.
Read moreThe Struggle
How can one feel worthy when the world seems to revolve around women with children?
Read moreMindfulness meditation
Sarah leads us through a brief session touching on practices that have been useful on her childless journey. Mindfulness meditation and breath work accessible for beginners.
Read moreDignity
Dignity
Latin – dignus – worthy
Noun. The state or quality of being worthy of honour or respect.
These Six And A Half Years
In the spring of 2014 I began grieving my childlessness.
In December of that year I left my marriage.
Read moreHow I’m finding Life Again
I didn’t want to live, I didn’t care, I didn’t know I needed to grieve the loss of my child I never had.
Read moreCommon Ground
I was contemplating moving beyond childlessness from my tiny cabin overlooking Lake Superior when I met a woman about my age named Martha.
Read moreI Am Worthy To Be Seen
If someone asked me today how I learned to move forward after everything I have been through; I would say by learning to love myself unconditionally.
Read moreDon't Assume Anything
How to Enjoy a Life of Purpose and Meaning Without Children
It’s common for women without children to question their purpose and the meaning of life. I know I did.
Read moreI AM WORTHY
Realising my worth has been gradual. It started as a whisper.
Now it’s a clear voice. Not yet a roar! Well, occasionally!!
Read moreSome Inconvenient Truths
I guess I feel guilty in a way. Guilty that sometimes, I project a persona to the world that might be considered a little misleading.
Read moreFeeling Worthy
Hi. I'm Lana Walker. I’d always wanted to be a mum. I just assumed it would happen, because it’s so natural and part of life.
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