Comments that hurt
Friday 14th September is all about comments that hurt. In 2017 we spoke about four comments that hurt. Today World Childless Week will be focusing on one comment, so that we can explore it more deeply, together. This year’s comment that hurts is "You never know true love until you have a child".
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Love. Now there is a loaded word. People say ‘I love you’ and then beat their partner black and blue. People say ‘I love you’ and then leave their kids to follow their new beau to the other side of the world. Do we even have any shared consensus of what that word means?
For me love is a verb not an adjective. It’s our behaviours and actions that tell the true story. And people’s capacity for loving differs. As a psychologist I have worked with narcissists whose concept of love is about control or what others can do for them, who cannot see the needs of another or extend empathy. Some of them are parents too.
You’ll never know true love until you have a child
An involuntarily childless infertility survivor’s rebuttal
Andreia Trigo shares her feelings on the comment "you never know true love until you have a child" for World Childless Week's Comments That Hurt.
Has someone ever said the words “you never know true love until you have a child” to you?
“You never know true love until you have a child”...
"You never know true love until you have a child" is definitely a podium winner when it comes to ‘hurtful comments people say when you’re childless not by choice’
Let’s dissect this sentence, shall we?
“You will never know real love,” said the preacher, “Never experience the full extent of God’s love, until you have had a child.”
I was a teenager then. Young, passive and impressionable. The preacher’s words certainly made an impression on me that day. Gee, non-parents must miss out big time.
Yes, I love the Beatles – I often think I was born 20 years too late.
I decided to do things a little differently today and as you watch this video you will realise why.