For most of my life, this would have been a fairly straight forward question, but being childless has forced me to re-think so many aspects of my life.
Read moreLegacies of Faith: The God Who Weeps
It’s Mother’s Day again. My church is holding a Mother’s Day service.
Read moreThe Last of My Kind
My mum hands me the St. Christoper pendant my dad has worn since he was 20 years old. He turned 80 eleven days ago. He has been gone for three days now, dying suddenly at the kitchen sink, my mum by his side.
Read moreGifts to My Family and Others
Sorry I didn’t leave any grandchildren for you to hold.
Sorry I didn’t leave your children any cousins to play with.
Read morePictures of You
My parents don’t have any photographs of them when they were children, and the earliest pictures I have seen of them date back to when they were in their 20’s.
Read moreMy Heart in Bloom
After our failed embryo transfers and the decision to move forward as a childless couple, I felt the need to commemorate our experience and have a place of remembrance.
Read moreInvisible Legacies
Just having children is a lazy legacy. Real legacies are invisible. Real legacies are about making a difference, on a tiny level or on a big one.
Read moreIt’s Enough that I Am
”Who would I save them for!?”, I said - and immediately felt a wave of anxiety filling me.
Read moreWhen I Grow Up I Want to be an Auntie
I am an auntie. It’s the thing that I am best at, which is somewhat ironic because it’s the one thing that I never had to do for myself. There was absolutely nothing I could do to make it happen.
Read moreChange Born from Darkness
Myself and my husband struggled through the difficult road of a diagnosis of premature ovarian failure at the age of 35 for me…
Read moreComplex Truths to Build a Legacy in Paint, Paper and Glue
I’ve been working on a watercolour and collage piece about an encounter with nature I had in my late 30s.
Read moreMy Legacy is being Me and Living "My" Unique Life
I always ask for a small amount of text to accompany anything that is purely visual or audio. I was about to email Sandra with such a request when I reread the message she sent with her submission. Stephanie Joy Phillips
Read moreCreating a Legacy from the Intersectionality of Childlessness and being a Woman of Colour
I’ve always had a fascination with genealogy as the result of growing up far from grandparents, cousins and extended family.
Read moreThe 'Broken' Chair-A Tale of Two Legacies
Do not mistake the 'damage' for weakness or neglect, they are signs of resilience & being well loved.
Read more“Favourite Auntie” will be my legacy
My limb of the family tree ends with me. There will be no children or grandchildren along my limb. I will not be the reason why someone exists.
Read moreClem’s Garden – A Living Legacy
I came late to discovering the wonder of growing and sharing flowers…
Read morePoetry Follows Me
Poetry will be my legacy
Read moreHow I put my Rose-Colored Glasses away for Good
I am a 46 year-old married woman. My earliest memory of wanting to be a mother was when I was 12. To me, it was this automatic thing that would magically happen. It never occurred to me that it might not.
Read moreRedefine Legacy…
Wobble Warning: In this post, I talk about grandparents, children, friends, death, legacy, and more… Such topics have the potential to cause a wobble. Please, do not read if you are feeling vulnerable today.
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