My hands sliced through the pristine surging currents after making it through the most challenging part of my adventure: a hairpin bend with fast-flowing rapids, a steep and imposing rock wall to my right.
Read moreFinn for Father's Day
From the moment I realized I was gay I knew having children wouldn't be obvious. And although there are many possibilities it is something very biological for me. I'm still curious what kind of person from Dieter and I would come from. But I'm at peace with the situation and sometimes, sometimes I just regret it too.
Read moreMen's Feelings In Childlessness
Shunem Care Family members: Whisper Maisiri, Sikhumbuzo Dube, Samuel Mwanza chat about their experiences in African childless marriages.
Read moreHome Again
She and I returned home
from the annual family vacation
on Saturday at 10:49 am,
The Last Taboo
Silent Losses
The following composition by Guy W Stoker was inspired by a poem written by Andy Harrod of (In)visible childlessness.
Read moreI Shift My “Hood”: My Search for Meaning as a Childless Man
Growing up as an African man, I had the concept that life is made complete by having a family with children. So strong was this thought that I could not imagine a married life without any offspring.
Read moreBecoming Differently Fruitful
In 1990, we married at 36. Ready to go, do what is expected of us, with fertility on both sides of the family well proven.
Read moreA Picture is Worth 293 Words
There is a picture that hangs above my father-in-law's fireplace.
He titled it "Men in the mountains" and in it…
I’m Not Alone
Over the past year and a half, I’ve worked from home with and for people I’ve never met. Having
to wear masks in public up until recently means that I probably wouldn’t have recognized them if
I ran into them on the street.
A Story of Unfulfilled Dreams
Sikhumbuzo Dube is interviewed by Ursula Nora about legacy and his story of unfulfilled dreams.
Read morePosterity
It is not of flesh and blood.
It will not have my eyes,
her earlobes,
her hair, my lack of it.