Childless
Does not mean
Less than
What A Cat Taught Me About Motherhood
I wasn’t supposed to own cat. And I wasn’t supposed to be childless. I had wanted a dog.
Read moreLiving while childless
For years, we’ve been meeting
on Zoom and on WhatsApp almost
every day: My life of being childless is
Read moreI am Worthy…Why Can’t You See That!
As I write these words, tears are falling. Is this something I truly believe in my soul, or am I just convincing myself they’re true? After all, could I actually be worthy while failing to have children?
Read moreThe Everyday Fight
I want to acknowledge all of the childless women who fight the painful images and reminders of what they’ll never have.
Read moreI am so very worthy
Being Childless, very much not by choice is a difficult situation to navigate. It can leave you feeling drained and without a sense of purpose. I lost me, I lost my sense of self.
Read moreCommunity
Thank you to this beautiful community who has embraced, encouraged, and uplifted me.
Read moreI am Love
We Are Not Your Enemy: The Truth About Women Who Are Childless Not By Choice
For some women it’s miscarriage. For some it’s infertility. For some it’s social infertility (financial, not meeting the right partner, or something else). For some it’s stillbirth. For some it’s ectopic pregnancy. For many of us it can be a cruel combination of more than one.
Read moreWe are worthy of inclusion in the workplace
As childless people, we are worthy of being recognised, acknowledged and included in our workplaces.
Read moreEnough is Enough
Not enough, is the message I was told.
Not enough, until a baby you make, was the message sold.
Read moreI’m learning the depth of my worth…even as I write this
It took a long time to get here. There were times I thought that I would be mourning every day, constantly reminded of everything that I didn’t have.
Read moreLandmarks
My long empty life stretches ahead of me. There will be no christenings, no birthdays, first days at school, exam results to celebrate, no landmarks of any kind.
Read moreI am you, and you are me... and we are worthy
This piece is a reflection on the very special role of meditation classes for Childlessness not by Choice in my healing journey.
Read moreUnseen No More
What's The Point
Throughout the first three years of grief, a sensation gnawed at me. It pushed in towards the core of my body from the outside, coming at me from all directions, squashing my chest with the weight of its questions.
Read moreFinding worth in friendships
A dear friend said to me a while ago how lovely it was for her to see me interact with her (teenage) children.
Read moreAll that I am
I am the sun and the warm grass
The howling wind and a gentle breeze
I am 48 and yes, I am still growing
Change is inevitable. It’s constant. We can’t escape it. It’s inside of us and outside of us. If we resist it, we suffer.
Read moreWhat’s my womb for? Pondering my purpose as a childless woman
Just before my 40th birthday, I started a blog where I shared my confusion about my age and stage and posed the questions I couldn’t get out of my head:
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