I was considered for adoption…
Therefore, I do not consider adoption. Adoption is not an option.
Read moreHave you ever thought of adoption?
‘Have you ever thought of adoption?’
Your question is like a shotgun,
Suddenly pointed at my throat.
Read moreA Life Made of Sand
For weeks I’ve been trying to get the story of my experience with adoption down on paper, and even though it’s been over a year since it ended, it is still too heartbreaking to tell the story in its entirety.
Read morePlease pick us to adopt your baby
This is an illustration of the picture of me and my husband that would be in “the book” that markets us to potential birth-mothers.
Read moreI Just Wanted A Baby
I just wanted a baby
No! I don’t want you to fix me
And I don’t need your sympathy
All I ask is that you listen to my story.
Read moreNature, Nurture, not sure
I was never the little girl who played Mommy with dolls and baked cookies in make-believe kitchens.
Read moreI Did Not Choose The Wrong Adoption Path
I sat at a table at Starbucks, listening incredulously as a Facebook friend, a woman I knew on the most superficial of levels, told me that she wanted to meet with me to connect about our infertility/adoption journeys,…
Read moreIt’s All About the Child
Have you considered adoption?
Yes. Have you? No? Of course, you didn’t need a ‘plan B’ for making a family.
Read moreRed Tape Rejection
“Have you considered adoption?” A loaded question which I have been asked hundreds of times in the past 9,5 years and one I have answered with just one simple answer; Yes, I have.
Read moreTalk to the Hand!
If I had a dollar for every time I was asked the question “Have you considered adoption?” after I turned 40, I’d probably living in a mansion with my husband and furbabies with a butler, yacht and our own private jet!
Read moreTHE KILLER QUESTION OF ADOPTION
Every time I tell someone that I can’t have children because I’m infertile, it’s automatic. They ask me the killer question: Have you thought about adoption?
Read moreThe List is Long
Talking about a difficult situation with someone can often result in the person you’re speaking to wanting to help to fix that difficult situation.
Read moreChildfree: Because Motherhood Completely Ruined Me
I was a mom, a damn good mom, but I can never go back to that life. It’s a distant memory now. Motherhood was full of heartache, loss and trauma; a life I can never go back to.
Read moreThe Dreaded Question
It comes up almost every time I discuss my infertility and subsequent childlessness with someone. Have you ever thought about adoption?
Read moreThey Wouldn’t even Speak to Me
My dream of creating a family was marriage, then adopt at least one child and, maybe, birth one child. Life, however, had profoundly different plans. I divorced my first husband by age 22.
Read moreHair Loss and Childlessness
I originally wrote this blog earlier in the year but feel one part, one really important part, is totally relevant to comments that hurt and ‘that adoption question’.
Read moreAdoption is Not a Consolation Prize
I think the worst part about this question is that it symbolises that kids up for adoption are a 'consolation prize' or that adoption is like a supermarket where you nip in and pick out what you want.
Read moreJust Four Simple Words
Have you considered adoption? A question cast out like a net… like a trap… I have got tangled in it before. Just four simple words.
Read moreA question asked by hairdressers everywhere
I’ve been asked this question by hairdressers, my boss, my sister, people I’ve encountered at a party – is it a simple “how are you?” or “how’s work”? Not exactly. The question is the very personal and loaded “why didn’t you adopt?”.
Read moreNot Everyone can Just Adopt
Working in retail / grocery you get questions about kids ( how old are they or how many do you have ?) I rarely ask first because then the tables turn and they ask you. As soon as I say I have infertility (premature ovarian syndrome) the first words back are well you can just adopt.
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