In her article about being single and childless, Wilkinson (2019) discusses two types of people who fall outside of the cultural norm of “reproductive futurism”, both of whom she describes as being “queer”, that is, out of place or out of synch with these norms.
Read moreChoose Choice Consequence
You didn't choose to be here; it wasn't your choice. You were brought to this place by circumstance.
Read moreNavigating Childlessness: A Year of Challenges, Growth, and Resilience
Over the past year, I've noticed some significant steps and subtle differences in how I handle my childlessness. It's been a journey marked by growth, pain, and a continuous effort to find peace with my childlessness.
Read moreA Life Long Wish
Ever since I was a little girl, being a wife and mom was all I wanted to be.
Read moreHealing Transformation
The Maternal Instinct
Coming Through The Mud
Travelling Alone with Misery’s Shadow
Earlier this year I lost my lovely dad and 18 months ago I lost my amazing mum. I have never felt so alone in the world.
Read moreGrit, Determination, Beauty: The Lotus
Lotuses arise from a dark place into their beautiful form. They grow in the mud and swampy areas; and out of the mud, comes beauty.
Read moreFrom Soul Loss to Soul-Making
The devastating loss of motherhood hit me hard in my early forties when, after three miscarriages, my husband, Michael, and I stopped fertility treatments and decided against adoption.
Read moreBuoyancy
Early morning. I’m in the hotel hot tub, alone.
The crows hack, the blackbirds sing back,
Louder, sweeter, it soars above the water’s roar.
Read moreThings Really Do Get Better
Part of me assumed I would one day get married and have children but there was another part of me – even from a very young age – that honestly didn’t think this would happen.
Read moreChildless by Relationship
I'm childless by relationship. I met my partner at the age of 38, we both agreed to not have children.
Read moreLost and Found
Not Like The (M) others
I was still a child of eight years old when my mother took me with her to her friend's baby shower.
Read moreBanished
Be a Buffalo
“Be a buffalo! Cows run away from the storm while the buffalo charges toward it—and gets through it quicker.”
Read moreNever-Ever
Your new life isn’t picture-perfect, not by a long shot.
Read moreThe Lessons of the Jigsaw
“Shall we make a 1000 pieces jigsaw?” said Robin, already enthusiastically holding up the colorful box in his hands.
Read moreRuth's Journey
My name is Ruth, and this is my journey. From a young age, I always imagined that children would be a part of my life.
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