I am a book, to be thrown away once written. Four or six pairs of eyes cast upon the scratchings that tell the story of me. Something to pass by, not pass down.
Read moreSchrödinger’s Scan
In those two weeks we were
well rested zombies who ate
mac and cheese on china and
chocolate ice cream on white couches.
Read moreThe Boxer
“You’re so lucky you don’t have kids!” She threw the remark in my face like a dirty dishcloth before dashing out of the room. I laughed as a reflex, like a boxer dodging a blow.
Read more"You're so lucky you don't have kids" A conversation about how we can respond authentically
In this conversation we talk about the impact these affirmations can have on communication and relationships between parents and non- parents.
Read moreShare
The number of times I hear "You're lucky you don't" or "You can have mine" is outrageous. This is a big part of why I share.
Read moreThe Lucky One
Beyond the Notion of Luck in Infertility
In a world that often equates parenthood with fulfillment and success, the experiences of those who journey through the realm of infertility can remain hidden, misunderstood, and even invalidated.
Read moreYour Life Must Be Easy
Your life must be easy peasy, lemon squeezy they say, No responsibilities, no childcare to arrange, only the freedom to travel the world.
Read moreWalking and Talking
Behind the line of trees ahead lies the estuary. We can’t see it just yet, but once we’re into the next field, the blue from the sky will bounce off the water below.
Read moreI Miss Not Having A Family
I was diagnosed with premature ovarian syndrome at 25. My ex husband and I explored every avenue we could within our financial means and we could handle emotionally and psychologically.
Read moreThe grass is greener ... or is it?
If I’d been told 20 years ago that I was lucky to not have kids I would have been angry. Such a comment ignores what I have lost, minimises it, dismisses it.
Read moreBlessed, Fortunate or Advantaged?
They say it so easily- the child-filled ones. They see their circumstances and they feel the weight of their role and they just say it.
Read moreThe Childless Lottery Winner
If I had a dollar for every time a parent said to me “you’re so lucky you don’t have kids!” over the past 20 years, I’d probably be able to afford to fly business class from Melbourne to Singapore every year!
Read moreNot lucky, just resilient
Lucky to not have kids? If I had a penny for every time I have heard this over the last 30 years, I would be living in a villa on a private island somewhere.
Read moreScraps from the table
My sister-in-law used to be obsessed with the notion of top dog-ism, I think that’s the same as the type ‘A’ personality.
Read moreDid I Win The Lottery?
Reasons to feel unlucky: I’m childless…
Read moreSuffering and Joy Together
I don’t understand this sentiment…if I am so lucky to not have kids, then why did you have kids in the first place?
Read moreFor luck and those who have it
“You’re so lucky,” said a friend of mine. I heard her clearly down the long-distance phone line, even all the way from Germany where she now lives.
Read moreHidden Level of Loneliness
I'm childless and single and work with a group of women who all have children.
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