Many friends were lost during IVF due to lack of understanding. Babies and pregnancy shoved in my face by those who could not comprehend, shattering my vulnerable heart each time until I could no longer see these people I call friends without wanting to fall apart.
Read moreAs I Sit
"You're too Emotional". "Don't be so dramatic". "You shouldn't be so Sensitive". "Aren't you over that yet?"
Read moreI Am My Only True Friend
One Death, Two Losses
Long, long ago in a lifetime far, far away…
We will call them Laila and Sasha. They are both the heroes in their own stories. They both see the other as one who did the other wrong. In the end, who can say who was right?
Read moreRose Tinted Grandparent Glasses
The day I had my hysterectomy, my heart broke. My lifetimes dream of becoming a mum was taken from me as I slept under anaesthetic.
Read moreThe Whole of the Iceberg
After University, I stayed part of a loose group of friends who, in later years, have roughly divided into two groups: The Queers and The Mums.
Read more"I've been there"
You have a son! I have a nephew! And he’s wonderful. He’s a gorgeous bouncing rainbow baby that you’ve waited for, for a long time for.
Read moreWhat is a best friend, anyway?
What is a best friend, anyway?
Maybe she’s the one you climbed trees with when you were six.
Read moreDear friend, it's time we talk about childlessness
Othering
Over the last year I thought quite a lot about my role in people’s lives, and their role in mine.
Read moreGod's Plan
Your morning at the St. Petersburg Pier Playground would be raw enough without suffering the inquisition that is to come.
Read moreJust an OPC... nothing more
She was kind and friendly. She listened when I told her my life story. She cried when I would talk about my feelings.
Read moreMy Childless Friend
Inclusion & Wellbeing at Work
Inclusion and well-being, the heart of our workplace culture
Everyone here should feel they belong
Read moreYou're part of our family
When my mum died and I was alone in the world you welcomed me into your family with your husband and 4 children.
Read moreNo Warning
I'm dedicating this day to my friend!
I’ve been pretty lucky with friends in my life over the last few years.
Read moreChildless but not friendless
I remember reading a childless blogger, years ago, writing that they didn’t think they would ever have good, close friends. I found that devastatingly sad.
Read moreYou Win Some, You Lose Some
When I ‘came out’ as a childless man in my late sixties, I knew I’d surprise some old friends. They were used to seeing me as ‘Robert, the permanent bachelor’, someone who was reasonably content with his life.
Read moreEbbs and Flows
So many times I’ve felt as though I’ve ended up alone floating down a viewless river with no way to get off, while my friends have been on a different, more picturesque route filled with family fun, laughter and love.
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