Jolene

I look young. I am still within childbearing age. People see me and think that there’s still time for me to have kids and offer advice. People see me and think that I never wanted kids.

The medical trauma I went through trying to get pregnant and through my multiple miscarriages was too much for me to handle. Any more medical interventions or failed pregnancies would have pushed my mental health over the edge. The failure rate for fertility treatments is high; there was a high possibility it would never have turned out in my favour. I/we had to make the decision to stop trying.

I/we worked hard to recover our mental health. We work hard to fit into places where we feel like we don’t belong when it seems like everything is geared towards people with kids.

We do exist.

We are here.

We found community.

We have a future.

We have a place in society.