I will have 5 children, I said

(Kennedy Grace, Christina Elizabeth, Shea, Declan, McKenna)

They will be amazing, I said

I will be the best mother like my mom, I said

My husband will be my best friend, I said

We will stay up late together watching tv while the kids sleep, I said.

I will teach school and take care of my children after school, I said.

We will take trips to the beach, I said

Help someone else, they saidPut others first, they saidBe humble, they said

Be a lady, they said

Work hard, they said

Be kind to others, they said

Be passionate about your career, they said

Follow your passion, they saidFollow your heart, they said

Love yourself, they said

All is fair in love and war, they said

Hearts are meant to be broken, they said

There’s plenty of fish in the sea, they said

He’s not good enough for you, they said

His loss, they said

Everything happens for a reason, they said

You will meet someone one day I know it, they said

Stop looking and you will find him, they said

Don’t sit on your couch and wait for Prince charming, get out there and find him, they said

Marry your best friend, they said

Marry someone of the same faith, they said

You will just know its right, they said

Join a dating site, they said

It’s easy, they said

Every pot has a lid, they said

You will find your match, they said

There is someone for everyone, they said

Go to more sporting events, they said

Go to church to meet someone, they said

Pray for it everyday, they said.

Go on a blind date, they said

I have the perfect guy for you, they said

Your cramps will go away when you have babies, they said

You will be a great mother one day, they said

When you have your own kids you will understand, they said

When you have a child your world will change, they said

Where God closes a door, he opens a window, they said

You have endometriosis, you cannot conceive, the doctor said

Being single is a vocation, dad said

Did you not want to have children, ? They said

Your too old to have children, she said.

You will have to do IVF, she said

But do you want to raise a child alone, she said

They are not your children, he said

What do I live for now, I said

Who am I if I am not a wife or mother, I said

Who will love me, I said

Who will take care of me , I said

Who is the witness to my life, I said

When will I get celebrated for someone choosing me?

When do I get to have a house, a yard ?

When do I get showered with friends and nice things?

When do I get to have someone stand up for me?

Why don’t I get a partner to share my life with ? I asked

Kelly Shea