Chantal0995

The number of times I hear "You're lucky you don't" or "You can have mine" is outrageous.

This is a big part of why I share. 

People just don't know. 
If they haven't lived it and we don't share it, then how do they know?

This is why World Childless Week is so important. 

People can't empathize if we smile and change the subject or walk away. 
People can't change their words if we avoid them. 
People don't know it hurts if we cry in silence. 

For a long time, I couldn't say it. I would smile and change the subject. I avoided them too. I walked away too. I stopped attending. Go through your grief. Take the time you need, you deserve it. 

BUT

When you're stronger
Say what you wish someone would have said for you. 

When you're strong enough, stand up, show up, and speak up for all those who will come after us. Many people do care. People do want to help. They just don't know how & in the thick of our grief, we can't be the ones to tell them.  

When you're strong enough, share the feelings you know others are struggling with. 

I don't love posting this stuff on my feed. It’s heavy and I get so many sad or care faces. This is no longer for me. 

This share is for the wo/men who are still crying in silence, for those who are struggling to survive while everyone tells them "you're so lucky".

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